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Unlock Your True Self-Expression & Personal Power Family Meta-Messages

Messages we have been told that trap us from being ourselves.

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Valerie Tate MA, MFT, CHt

Renowned Intuitive Therapist

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Unlock Your True Self-Expression & Personal Power Family Meta-Messages

Messages we have been told that trap us from being ourselves.

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Valerie Tate MA, MFT, CHt

Renowned Intuitive Therapist

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You Deserve to Be All of You!

Do you often find yourself irritated, reactive, secretive or defensive in conversation with your family of origin?

Would you rather avoid certain topic areas in fear of their reactions?

Are you afraid of breaking family rules or roles by being your truest self?

All families carry unspoken rules or Meta-messages…

Meta-messages are the unspoken/unsaid messages about life, how to be, and how to live in society. The meta-message, unlike a direct message, has meaning that is not necessarily said, but that we take away from its contextual environment.

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Can you relate to any of these family meta-messages?

  • Don't get fat

  • Failure is not an option

  • Keep your feelings to yourself

We learn and adapt ourselves to family meta-messages as kids, in order to get the most love possible. Yet this is a coping mechanism for emotional and mental survival and is not always helpful in our adult lives.

YOU are a UNIQUELY designed INDIVIDUAL and there are PARTS OF YOU waiting to come out and be seen by yourself, your family and the world. By identifying your family meta-messages it will help to increase your awareness of what messages have been running YOU versus the messages you CHOOSE to live by.

I invite you to watch this video to learn more about the family meta-message course.

Are you able to express your full self with your family or do you tend to hide aspects of yourself? Do you often…

  • Feel AFRAID that your family or those close to you will rejects parts of you

  • Feel SHAME about your desires and needs

  • Think there is a ‘RIGHT WAY’ to do things and if you veer off path things will go wrong

  • Trust OTHERS more than yourself

  • Avoid people for FEAR of rejection

  • Struggle with ANXIETY and decision making

The Family Meta-Message Course is a Self-guided 10 Lesson Program to Unlock Your True Self-Expression & Personal power.

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“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” ― C.G. Jung

Through taking this course you will…

  • Identify hidden messages that your family gave you.

  • Differentiate between your truth versus what you were raised with.

  • Uncover your relationship to major life themes: Money, Sex, Power, Love.

  • Recognize the roles you play and have played in your family of origin.

  • Learn communication skills for difficult conversations with family.

  • Get in touch with your values and how you relate to the world.

Are you ready to uncover your Family Meta-Messages?

After completing the course I feel more confident about discerning between my and my family’s values and embracing my own values. I feel better prepared to open up tough conversations. I feel more secure and happier with the idea of embodying my own values and better able to accept those values.

— Amy

Learn about the role you played in your family and how that interacted with the roles of other family members:

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THE MARTYR ‘After all that I have done for you’

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THE GOLDEN CHILD/HERO/SAINT ‘I have it all together’

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THE CARETAKER/ENABLER ‘I will cushion your fall’

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Valerie Tate, M.A., MFT, CHt

An Expert in Intuitive & Transpersonal Psychology

Valerie is an intuitive Psychotherapist, Leader, and Creator. Her global brand is the life, soul & relationship transforming kind. Serving individuals, couples and families worldwide, she supports them in listening to their inner voice, tapping into their truth, and finding flow in a linear world. With a Bachelors in Advertising, Valerie’s first career was in the well-heeled halls of Fortune 500 companies for global advertising agencies. Her Minor in Psychology led to a Masters Degree. Some of her modalities include: Art Therapy, Inner Vision Meditations, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Hypnotherapy, Past Life Regression and tapping into your Intuitive Navigation System™ with practical tools. Her personal near-death experiences inspired her to specialize in working with clients experiencing transitions or traumatic events. When she’s not helping people find joy beyond their circumstances, she’s soaking up time with her son, loving her animals, creating art and treating life like one big treasure hunt.

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Course Outline

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Lesson #1:

What is a family meta-message?

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Lesson #2:

Meta-Messages Meditation

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Lesson #3:

Meta-Messages Drawing

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Lesson #4:

Meta-Messages Family Roles

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Lesson #5:

Meta-Messages Discovery - Deepening

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Lesson #6:

Meta-Messages - Finding Your True Self

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Lesson #7:

Meta-Messages - Turning Fear into Action

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Lesson #8:

Meta-Messages - Communication Strategies & Boundary Setting

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Lesson #9:

Meta-Messages - Embracing My True Self

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Lesson #10:

Meta-Messages - Course Completion!

COURSE COMPLETION BONUS! Sign up for a zoom group support and sharing call to reflect and share what you have learned and ask questions.

Your Family Meta-Messages Course Includes:

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12 Illustrated worksheets (PDF or Print)

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Audio and Video Teachings

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Downloadable 11 minute Guided Meditation (MP3)

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Support via email with Valerie

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One zoom group support and sharing call

I feel like I have a better understanding of how I can find my true self and how I can communicate with people, especially family and friends, where I might have differences.

— Veronica

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If you sign up, commit to completing at least two of the modules, and decide this course is not a fit for you in the first 30 days, we will refund your investment.

Have a question? Email Valerie directly at val@valtate.com.

Here’s to becoming more of YOU!

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Frequently Asked Questions

Who is this course for?

This course is for those who want to break through to the next level of expressing their true selves and feel inhibited or blocked by limiting beliefs.

Some students have said...

“I’d recommend this course for someone who is working on or wants to improve family relationships and/or become more self-aware and self-accepting.” – Amy

“I would recommend it for people who are feeling blocked or stuck.” – Ann Marie

“I would recommend this course for people who have had challenging family dynamics, who may have difficulties communicating and setting boundaries with families, who are experiencing things like addiction, self-loathing, inability to be themselves.” – Veronica

How much does the course cost?

$147

How do the Modules work?

Upon registration, you receive immediate access to the entire course to work at your own pace. We use a platform called Teachable so you can easily navigate your way through each module and mark them complete as you go along.

How long will it take for me to finish this course?

This is different for everyone depending on your pace and schedule, though we feel you can work through 3 Lessons per week.

How long do I have access?

You get lifetime access! You can continue to come back to the tools and exercises in this course over and over again whenever you need them.

I have a question about the course. Who can I contact?

Val will be providing limited email support in relation to course enrollment and meta-message specific questions regarding the course curriculum. She can be reached at val@valtate.com.

What if I want to go deeper into MY FAMILY META-MESSAGES JOURNEY AFTER I COMPLETE THE COURSE?

We will provide you with the opportunity to receive ongoing support once you finish the course modules. This will be an additional investment, and well worth it if you desire to continue your journey with Val.

What if I take the course and decide it’s not for me?

We want you to feel great about your decision to purchase this course. If you sign up, commit to completing at least two of the modules and decide it’s not a fit for you in the first 30 days, we will refund your investment in full.

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This course put a spotlight on some deeply ingrained attitudes I have been subconsciously struggling against. I didn't realize how deeply some of those early messages affect me daily.

— Ann Marie

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