Key Steps to Using Intuition in Everyday Life

Using Intuition in Everyday Life

You Were Born Intuitive

Have you ever thought of someone and a few minutes later they call you? Have you had a dream that then comes into reality? Have you had a body sensation when you first met someone that repels you and you don’t know why? Have you ever just known which choice to make and you can’t explain it through logic? If you answered yes to any of these questions, that is intuition.

Everyone is born intuitive…yes everyone. Cultural and familial conditioning can squash our listening to intuitive guidance as we buy into the collective thought rather than our own direct download.

Intuition can be used for practical everyday life and not just big decisions. This can include where to eat dinner, when to schedule a particular meeting or which developer to hire for your project.

When I was choosing a pre-school for my son, I was overwhelmed. I turned up my intuitive senses and noticed that I became emotional at only 3 out of the 15 schools that I toured. I was able to narrow down my choices beyond logic and found the perfect spot for him.

Identify Your Intuitive Gifts

Intuition comes to us through different channels like languages of the senses. Most of us are dominant in one channel, yet we don’t recognize it as intuition. Here are some examples:

Clairsentience – clear feeling

When people say ‘follow your gut,’ this describes a form of intuition called Clairsentience. Clairsentience allows you to feel the emotions of people or places in your own feeling sense and in your body.

Clairvoyance – clear seeing

Clairvoyant dominant people are very visual and often use language such as ‘I see…’ as they describe things. They have an ease of seeing imagery, and often have vivid dreams that can be interpreted metaphorically or predictively. Some people can see spirits or beings beyond our ‘typical’ accepted reality.

Clairaudience – clear hearing

Clairaudience is the ability to communicate telepathically, receiving mental messages from other people, animals or even trees! Another form of clairaudience is when you speak as if there is a verbal guidance beyond your own mind.

This intuitive sense has the quality of just knowing something, whether it’s the right choice to make or the outcome of a situation. This sense of knowing often defies logic.

Clairsalience – clear smelling

Clairsalience is the ability to smell things and have a sense about them. For example, one can smell depression or illness within another person.

Listening & Following

Many people describe their ability to sense, yet disregard their intuition and chose logic over knowing. The practice of experimenting with listening and following one’s intuition is key.

Intuition as a Treasure Hunt

I think of intuitive listening as following a treasure hunt of life. We are often not given intuitive messages about big decisions in life, but rather small steps along the way that lead to the big result.

For example, you go to a job interview for a company that looks great on paper, however you have a stressful body sensation as you enter the office. You are likely sensing the corporate culture and you can use this as a clue towards the decision you make.

There are no wrong decisions, just choices, and intuition can help shine the flashlight on the right spots.

Red Light, Green Light & Yellow Light

I created a simple intuitive trick for myself called Stoplight. Close your eyes, think of a question you have, and ask yourself for a Red, Green or Yellow Light. Red means no, Yellow means maybe (wait to decide) and Green is Yes. For example, someone invites you on a date and you are not sure if you are meant to go. Ask yourself for the light color, listen and follow through. With experimentation, you will see how true these yes, no and maybe guides pave out to be!

Intuition is available to everyone. It is important to validate what you do sense and develop the rest. Resource: Psychic Horizons San Francisco teaches Meditation and Clairvoyant Classes in person or virtual

The Bright Side of Responsibility

The Bright Side of Responsibility

Why is it as adults, that when we talk about being responsible, the mood drops? And why over 50% of the population avoids things like home ownership or having children for the mere fact of being concerned over the ‘responsibility’ of it? How has responsibility has become such a dirty word?

We tend to polarize between being care-free or being stressed-out responsible as if it has to be one way or the other. I think there is another way.

In my psychotherapy practice, I observe and surmise that it is one’s relationship to responsibility that causes the stress rather than the commitment itself. This applies to owning property, raising children and everything in between. We need to change our attitude to change the experience.

“I think of responsibility as response-ability, the ability to respond.” SARK

How we talk to ourselves makes a big difference between burden and joy. The words ‘I have to’ or ‘I should’ most often come before common responsibilities such as…clean the house, make the kids’ lunch, or plan the summer vacation. This language brings out our inner teenager, who doesn’t like being told what to do. The result is to feel oppressed by our own strict inner parenting.

Instead, try inviting yourself to the task in a way that suits your needs in the moment. Mowing the lawn can be fun if you design it that way.

We spend time orchestrating the perfect date, adventurous vacation or a dinner party with just the right food and people. Why don’t we place that same pleasure focused attention onto taking care of responsibilities?

A few years back, my taxes were causing me a lot of stress. I recognized that I was the one in charge of how I felt about them. I decided to take my taxes and computer out for a glass of wine, to infuse the examination of numbers with a pleasurable environment and less pressure.

The cool thing about being an adult is that we get to do it our way. Despite this, many of us keep doing the things that need doing in a heavy handed and oppressive manner.

Also, we often approach being responsible with being only linear. When things don’t go exactly as the linear plan is laid out, we feel constriction and stress. Adding flow and play to our approach, can lead to a more fulfilling relationship to being responsible.

For example, I don’t like to clean my house in a linear manner, as my preferences frequently change. I first ask myself what would feel good to help me with this task. Recently, I put on my wireless headphones, clicked on my favorite pandora station, and started with organizing my cupboards. How we do it one day, doesn’t mean it will feel just as right the next. Just like taking a walk, having sex or hanging out with friends. This way, we can meet ourselves in the now rather than a script of the ‘right’ thing to do.

We could all use a little brightening and lightening up in our relationship to responsibility. It’s simply more fun that way.